Macaroni necklaces, handprint art, brunch and the day with family are classic associations with Mother’s Day. But these associations don’t belong to everyone.
For some women, Mother’s Day is a poignant reminder of loss…
Here are some self-care tips if Mother’s Day is a challenging day for you:
Notice how your body feels as well as your mood in the days surrounding Mother’s Day. Some women may notice headaches, stomachaches, or other messages of distress from your body. Irritability, detachment, or feeling lethargic might be other indicators that you are struggling.
Give yourself permission to spend the day how and where you want
If you anticipate Mother’s Day itself will be a difficult day for you, be purposeful about how, where, and with whom you want to spend the day. Though be careful to not isolate, as that potentially can exacerbate grief or sadness.
Communicate to loved ones
Give them a window into how you are feeling and how they can support you. Depending on your specific situation, people who care about you might not know what this day means for you.
Avoid social media
It will be overflowing with images of Mother’s Day celebrations (but please also remember, those are just snapshots of a single moment in time! Many of those photographs do not tell the whole story as to what is happening inside those families). Instead, consider what be enriching for you: music, art, reading, or other!
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